I was lying on my couch sipping the coffee little by little, drenched in my thoughts.
I was running like a wild zombie to catch up every bit of my life and that's one way I enjoy the old moments which would never be back and of course it has an implied side effect that it reminds moments of pain, ha obviously tears would roll out, and it happens to the pure hearts' alone.
I was wondering how many times this word is used in my life, probably can be ranked NO #1 in usage. "Sorry", ever thought about the fact that it has multiple faces to show to different people and to different situations. The topic seemed interesting to my "always find me new things" mind and thought to stop the zombie run and have a focused run behind this "Sorry".
So whenever I research on things, whatever be the topic, I would like to take each persons seat and understand the situation from their perspective. This is something which I got inborn I think, not a forced one. I guess, it is because I am a very true Libra, who has to come up with a justified answer every time, and of course then everyone involved should be considered. So like any other topic, here too I imagined myself in different roles, situations; the "Requester" and the "Acknowledger" in all possible situations I could think about.
So I am now in the seat of the requester, the moments I have asked Sorry to someone. I could feel how relieved I felt after asking sorry to someone I hurt. It can be from a simple dropping her book down to extreme extend of breaking a heart; and I could see how each Sorry is different, and we use the same word thinking it can heal all the mishaps whether it is a simple one or extremely harmful thing. But fortunately, for me I haven't ever touched that extreme line. So if someone thinks that I have been to extremes, please be open about it, coz its out of my knowledge and I haven't asked a Sorry for that yet. I really owe Sorry for those people, and wish to do that at least. So as I said, for a person who asks for sorry, even though the intensity of situations are different, everyone was relieved of the suffocation in their hearts after they asked for one. More or less, its just an escapade, where people think asking a sorry would help them escape from all the troubles they created, and they smart people are back to their world.
But ever thought about the person who is in the other side acknowledging your Sorry? Ha, so for the justified outcome, I need to switch the seat to the Acknowledgee, now. It has also the same simple to extreme versions according to the situation. Yes, it does carry a relative degree in the amount of pain caused, but this is the person who carries the pain of the Sorry after that situation, and some ones, even lasting his entire life. The person asking Sorry would never ever think about this, how the same word would reflect on the other person. When he is relieved from his suffocation, the other one is put into pain and he piggybacks this his entire life.
So "sorry" is an art just like Leonardo Davinci's Monolisa. The undefined, the unpredictable, dual faced, yet sometimes unforgettable moments in someone's life.
Here I am taking an extreme example to see the relativity better, from two person's perspective;
Person A : Hey, Its unfortunate I know. But, Sorry to break your heart. I never meant it!
Person B : Stares at A for a moment. Is that I heard right? He is asking a Sorry? Oh yeah, he wants to be relieved from the troubles he has caused in a single word. Ahh! It hurts isn't it.
With a made up smile, B says, Ohh, its fine. I am ok!
This is a decent way B behaves, and don't think every time you are a Person A, who would get such a perfect answer your hoped for. Sometimes, it can be even worse, pouring the hot soup over A's face, which leaves A staring back at B.
But ultimately, what happened, either case A is not affected, or A is affected somewhat with small temporary burns he can survive with. And see what happened to B; He is living with the heavy heart knowing the fact that whatever hoped for was just a dream and with lot of questions around "what" and "why". B would have the permanent mark of the wound, as it is on his heart. Seems cell regeneration over there is somewhat very slow or nil. Each wound would leave a mark over there, with a pointer to the memory system, our brain, and each time that memory location is fetched, this mark will be refreshed, giving some pain of the wound again. I know, I have gone a little computer organization way here. Excuse me! But the idea behind would be very much clear to any one out there, I guess!
So whenever you are in such situations, especially asking for a sorry, please think about the impression it would have in the other person's mind. Don't give false hope to anyone and mess them up. Because for you Sorry is a beautiful faced escape mechanism, and for the counter person, its an ugly faced devil, hanging on his memories for ever. Because, you would never know when she will show her ugly face on you! And next time you promise something to someone, make sure you don't have to ask sorry for that ever, coz it won't be always mellifluous to listen, like Justin Beiber's baby I am sorry song, for the person who has to acknowledge it!
I was running like a wild zombie to catch up every bit of my life and that's one way I enjoy the old moments which would never be back and of course it has an implied side effect that it reminds moments of pain, ha obviously tears would roll out, and it happens to the pure hearts' alone.
I was wondering how many times this word is used in my life, probably can be ranked NO #1 in usage. "Sorry", ever thought about the fact that it has multiple faces to show to different people and to different situations. The topic seemed interesting to my "always find me new things" mind and thought to stop the zombie run and have a focused run behind this "Sorry".
So whenever I research on things, whatever be the topic, I would like to take each persons seat and understand the situation from their perspective. This is something which I got inborn I think, not a forced one. I guess, it is because I am a very true Libra, who has to come up with a justified answer every time, and of course then everyone involved should be considered. So like any other topic, here too I imagined myself in different roles, situations; the "Requester" and the "Acknowledger" in all possible situations I could think about.
So I am now in the seat of the requester, the moments I have asked Sorry to someone. I could feel how relieved I felt after asking sorry to someone I hurt. It can be from a simple dropping her book down to extreme extend of breaking a heart; and I could see how each Sorry is different, and we use the same word thinking it can heal all the mishaps whether it is a simple one or extremely harmful thing. But fortunately, for me I haven't ever touched that extreme line. So if someone thinks that I have been to extremes, please be open about it, coz its out of my knowledge and I haven't asked a Sorry for that yet. I really owe Sorry for those people, and wish to do that at least. So as I said, for a person who asks for sorry, even though the intensity of situations are different, everyone was relieved of the suffocation in their hearts after they asked for one. More or less, its just an escapade, where people think asking a sorry would help them escape from all the troubles they created, and they smart people are back to their world.
But ever thought about the person who is in the other side acknowledging your Sorry? Ha, so for the justified outcome, I need to switch the seat to the Acknowledgee, now. It has also the same simple to extreme versions according to the situation. Yes, it does carry a relative degree in the amount of pain caused, but this is the person who carries the pain of the Sorry after that situation, and some ones, even lasting his entire life. The person asking Sorry would never ever think about this, how the same word would reflect on the other person. When he is relieved from his suffocation, the other one is put into pain and he piggybacks this his entire life.
So "sorry" is an art just like Leonardo Davinci's Monolisa. The undefined, the unpredictable, dual faced, yet sometimes unforgettable moments in someone's life.
Here I am taking an extreme example to see the relativity better, from two person's perspective;
Person A : Hey, Its unfortunate I know. But, Sorry to break your heart. I never meant it!
Person B : Stares at A for a moment. Is that I heard right? He is asking a Sorry? Oh yeah, he wants to be relieved from the troubles he has caused in a single word. Ahh! It hurts isn't it.
With a made up smile, B says, Ohh, its fine. I am ok!
This is a decent way B behaves, and don't think every time you are a Person A, who would get such a perfect answer your hoped for. Sometimes, it can be even worse, pouring the hot soup over A's face, which leaves A staring back at B.
But ultimately, what happened, either case A is not affected, or A is affected somewhat with small temporary burns he can survive with. And see what happened to B; He is living with the heavy heart knowing the fact that whatever hoped for was just a dream and with lot of questions around "what" and "why". B would have the permanent mark of the wound, as it is on his heart. Seems cell regeneration over there is somewhat very slow or nil. Each wound would leave a mark over there, with a pointer to the memory system, our brain, and each time that memory location is fetched, this mark will be refreshed, giving some pain of the wound again. I know, I have gone a little computer organization way here. Excuse me! But the idea behind would be very much clear to any one out there, I guess!
So whenever you are in such situations, especially asking for a sorry, please think about the impression it would have in the other person's mind. Don't give false hope to anyone and mess them up. Because for you Sorry is a beautiful faced escape mechanism, and for the counter person, its an ugly faced devil, hanging on his memories for ever. Because, you would never know when she will show her ugly face on you! And next time you promise something to someone, make sure you don't have to ask sorry for that ever, coz it won't be always mellifluous to listen, like Justin Beiber's baby I am sorry song, for the person who has to acknowledge it!
